Jealousy Isn’t Love - Get Rid Of It!
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V:3 I’m jealous of my wife. There’s no reason for it. I know I’m going to lose her if I don’t quit.
Jealousy had gotten the best of Olivia. She wasn’t jealous of her husband, Gavin, but she was jealous of any woman who looked at him. Gavin’s comment to us was, “She’s even jealous when I play with the kids. Frankly, I just want to run, but I need to save my marriage for their sake. If I left, she’s do everything she could to keep me from seeing them.”
Gavin was determined to do something to save their marriage. Olivia refused to go to a professional in the mental health field, but she liked our books, so Gavin thought that perhaps we could help her.
But Gary’s imagination went wild. He started thinking of all sorts of things that his wife could have been talking about to the other guy during the first couple of minutes of conversation. He demanded to know exactly what had been said, why they were talking and what was said about him. His wife patiently answered the first few questions, but as Gary got angrier, she dissolved into tears, wondering what she had done to deserve this attack. She loved her husband but this had gone too far.
Gavin let his imagination get the best of him. He started thinking of all sorts of things that his wife could have been talking about to the other guy during the first couple of minutes of conversation. He demanded to know exactly what had been said, why they were talking and what was said about him. His wife patiently answered the first few questions, but as Gary got angrier, she dissolved into tears, wondering what she had done to deserve this attack. She wanted to save their marriage, but this was so awful, she wasn’t sure any more.
The root of all jealousy is fear. Fear generates insecurity. Insecurity, in turn, results in possessiveness, and the need to control. Possessiveness and the need to control evidence themselves in jealous behavior. Jealousy will choke the life out of any relationship and can drive even the most devoted partner away, because it creates a prison - not just for the person who is jealous but his/her partner as well. Jealousy does not always turn into abuse but if left unchecked it can. In 1984, a movie entitled The Burning Bed starred the late Farrah Fawcett as the battered wife of a jealous, controlling husband and startled the viewing world. In real life, rock legend Tina Turner, who left an abusive marriage, wrote the story of her miseries in I, Tina, from which the movie, What’s Love Got to Do with It? was made in 1993. If you’re a jealous person, and you want your marriage to survive, we’ll say it as bluntly as we know how - you need to do whatever it takes to get rid of the green-eyed giant. Do not let it take control of your marriage.
If you’re a jealous person, and you want your marriage to survive, we’ll say it as bluntly as we know how - you need to do whatever it takes to get rid of the green-eyed giant. If you truly love your spouse and want to trust that your marriage is solid you can make a change.
If you’re a jealous person, and you want your marriage to survive, we’ll say it as bluntly as we know how - you need to do whatever it takes to get rid of the green-eyed giant.
Even gentle people can be jealous if they are insecure and fearful. Their jealousy evidences itself in dependency. Others soon tire of their clinging and feel suffocated by their possessiveness, so they find excuses not to be around them. Even the other partner needs to have support to make a change. Envy and jealousy can occur in your relationships with everyone. If you haven’t conquered the demon, you may be unkind toward your spouse’s relatives - especially your mother-in-law. You may even be envious of your husband’s or wife’s successes.
Even gentle people can be jealous if they are insecure and fearful. Their jealousy evidences itself in dependency. Others soon tire of their clinging and feel suffocated by their possessiveness, so they find excuses not to be around them. They, too, need lessons on how to save their marriages. You may struggle with distrust and envy of your siblings, your parents attention to others, and your friends. If you haven’t conquered the demon, you may be unkind toward your spouse’s relatives - especially your mother-in-law. You may even be envious of your husband’s or wife’s successes.
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Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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